We Weren’t Needed, We Were Wanted

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LoveWhy do we ‘plan’ to have children?

As a broad stroke generalization, when most of us say we are ready to have a child we are at a pretty good spot in life. We have a sense of stability, direction and future; so we feel established enough to bring a new life into our world.


A child brings about a complete reworking of life as we know it. Our schedule changes. Our cash flow changes. Our free time changes. It all becomes different. And let’s face it, the world isn’t in the best ‘condition’ at this point in history either.

So why?


For me, it was love.


Yes, there was the desire to carry on the family bloodline and to become a ‘family’ with my bride, but when it came time to expand our family it was about love.

A parent chooses to have a child because of love. We welcome a new creation into the world to love, direct and guide…and along with this new being comes the hope for a reciprocated love. We long to have the child love us in return in a way that only a child can.

When we consider WHY God created us, I can’t help but see the references to God as ‘our Father’ acting as a clue to the reason of His creation. God is love (1 John 4:8, “Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love”).

There is no definitive answer, and it is certainly on my list of ‘things to ask when I am with God’, but I see a picture of a God who is love. Of a God who is longing to have His love reciprocated.

God was not lonely. God was not bored. God was not ‘in need’. But God was, and is love.

Love longs to create and to share. We were created as an object of God’s love.


If that is true, then why did God put us in a world of hurt, pain, and sickness? Why would this God of love do that to the objects of His affection? Certainly we don’t have children just to torture them.

When God created us, He had to create us with choice. We were not created as ‘forced people’, you cannot force love. In order for God’s love to be truly displayed, He had to give us the opportunity to choose to love Him. Along with that, we could also choose to reject Him.

Through our rejection we have distanced ourselves from God, and our choices have brought about the world we live in today. The hurt and the pain that exist today are the result of our response to God; they are not what God had hoped.

But just as we continue to love and pursue our children even when they distance themselves from us, God continues to pursue us, and He has an answer to the broken world we live in.


For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him. – John 3:16-17


I love the way Rick Warren puts it, “God is love. He didn’t need us. But he wanted us. And that is the most amazing thing.

Grace and Peace.

Author: Kyle Froman

Husband | Father | Follower of Jesus | Lee Company Chaplain | Chaplains Collective Founding Chaplain | Former NASCAR Chaplain | Author | Disney Geek