Heroes in the Shadows

Categories: Faith,Racing,Ramblings,Writings

Froman FamilyWhen you were a child what did you want to be when you grew up?

A fireman? An astronaut? Musician? Cowboy? Sports superstar?

What were your dreams?

I had three. I wanted to be a racecar driver, I wanted to be an artist for Disney and I wanted to have a family. All of my goals and aspirations were wrapped up into those three dreams.

As I look back at the dreams I had as a child I am continually amazed at what I find myself doing today.

For the past 11 years I have been able to serve the racing community through Motor Racing Outreach, connecting the motorsports community with the gospel of God’s grace. Alongside my work with MRO, for the past 7 years I have been working with my best friend’s company, Off to Neverland Travel, helping people experience Disney Destinations in amazing ways. And of course I have the most unbelievable family. My home office allows me to enjoy so much time with my wife and two boys who bring so much joy to my life.


I am continually thankful for the things I find myself doing.


As I commit myself to making Christ known with my life I’ve had some amazing experiences and wild adventures along the way.

While the travel can be difficult at times, I find a lot of fulfillment in the reality that God is using me as a tool to make His love known to so many. As I interact with people and see their eyes open wide to the realities of God at work I am continually reminded of why God allows me to be used as I am.

Yet, every time I board a plane or back out of the driveway, my thoughts and my heart always travel to the same place.

My wife.


Mentally it can be hard to wrestle with the realization that many of the adventures I get to take happen when my wife is at home with our boys experiencing our normal daily routine. 


I wrestle with this because I know she doesn’t get to see the fruits of her labor. The people that experience God’s love through my obedience are actually experiencing God’s love through Her obedience. For if she weren’t obedient where God has her, I couldn’t be obedient where God has me.

She doesn’t get to experience first-hand the impact that her life is having on others.

Not only does she have the responsibly of reaching others through what she does, she has the responsibility of continuing to reach the next generation through her love and investment in our two boys, Micah and Kaleb.

Her work is hard, yet unnoticed. She doesn’t receive accolades. She doesn’t receive recognition. She just does, because she loves that way.

She isn’t alone, either.

As I walk through garages and pits at racetracks around the country I see other families living the same story. I see unsung heroes quietly standing next to racecars, full of smiles and corralling children, as their spouse lives in the spotlight pursuing their passion and purpose.

From crew members to officials, media to vendors, I hear stories of unsung heroes still at home, tending to families and day to day responsibilities, while spouses live out their purpose at the racetrack.

They live in the background, yet they are often he backbone of everything that happens. They are empowers and senders. Their value goes far beyond the recognition they receive.


They are silent warriors, heroes in the shadows, working tirelessly and unrecognized so that the ones they love can fulfill their purposes.


God would not be able to use me in the unique ways that He does if it were not for the obedience, faithfulness and love of my wife, Michelle. The fruit of the ministry I get to experience at the racetrack is the fruit of the ministry that Michelle is doing at home.

Her worth is great, more than gold.

Psalm 37:4 says:


 “Take delight in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.”


As we delight in the Lord, we begin to delight in what the Lord delights in. So the desires of God’s heart become the desires of our heart. What does God desire? That all would be drawn to Him.

The desire of my heart has been granted by being able to testify the goodness of His grace. The desire of Michelle’s heart has been granted because she, too, through her service and love is testifying to the goodness of God’s grace.


Great is her reward.


A good woman is hard to find,
    and worth far more than diamonds.
Her husband trusts her without reserve,
    and never has reason to regret it.
Never spiteful, she treats him generously
    all her life long.
She shops around for the best yarns and cottons,
    and enjoys knitting and sewing.
She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places
    and brings back exotic surprises.
She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast
    for her family and organizing her day.
She looks over a field and buys it,
    then, with money she’s put aside, plants a garden.
First thing in the morning, she dresses for work,
    rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started.
She senses the worth of her work,
    is in no hurry to call it quits for the day.
She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth,
    diligent in homemaking.
She’s quick to assist anyone in need,
    reaches out to help the poor.
She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows;
    their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear.
She makes her own clothing,
    and dresses in colorful linens and silks.
Her husband is greatly respected
    when he deliberates with the city fathers.
She designs gowns and sells them,
    brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops.
Her clothes are well-made and elegant,
    and she always faces tomorrow with a smile.
When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say,
    and she always says it kindly.
She keeps an eye on everyone in her household,
    and keeps them all busy and productive.
Her children respect and bless her;
    her husband joins in with words of praise:
“Many women have done wonderful things,
    but you’ve outclassed them all!”
Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades.
    The woman to be admired and praised
    is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God.
Give her everything she deserves!
    Festoon her life with praises!
Proverbs 31 (The Message)

Author: Kyle Froman

Husband | Father | Follower of Jesus | Lee Company Chaplain | Chaplains Collective Founding Chaplain | Former NASCAR Chaplain | Author | Disney Geek